Essential Backround to Know
The first 4 stages are when a child’s mindset is developing.
Where they are highly affected by the social cues they receive from the people around them. From a parent’s disapproval to their approval, it can change the way a child thinks about themself and especially affects how they approach learning later in life.
“Adults constantly raise the bar on smart children, precisely because they’re able to handle it. The children get overwhelmed by the tasks in front of them and gradually lose the sort of openness and sense of accomplishment they innately have. When they’re treated like that, children start to crawl inside a shell and keep everything inside. It takes a lot of time and effort to get them to open up again. Kids’ hearts are malleable, but once they gel it’s hard to get them back the way they were.”
— Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore —
Looking at a child who may be going through an adverse childhood experience, this can heavily and severely change their mindset, which can take years on years to grow out of.
How Can We Try and Change This?
Early education and constant reminders is something that can greatly help parents before things are too late and get too far. The way parents do things aren’t out of the feeling to harm the child but to want to help them where the harm done is not always intentional. I believe by informing parents when the child is at a young age such as in it’s toddler years to elementary school years, would greatly beneficial to the kid growing up. Something that can be both engaging and simple to understand is a pamphlet or an Illustrated booklet. These can be shared by educators such as kindergarten teachers and such. Parent conferances aren’t new news either, schools can have a parent education week and educate and inform parents on their children’s development through the years, such as a possibility of mental illnesses/disorders etc, and how to better support and help them through any of their future struggles while also finding ways to take care of yourself.
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Waziri, et al. “Erik Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development.” The Psychology Notes Headquarters, 22 May 2020, www.psychologynoteshq.com/erikson-stages/.
“Trauma, Adverse Experiences and Mindset.” Trauma, Adverse Experiences and Mindset – Growth Mindset Blog & Newsletter, blog.mindsetworks.com/entry/trauma-ace-s-and-mindset.